Experiencing traumatic events hurts deeply and can result in scarring for life, with some going on to develop a condition called Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). There are people who experience trauma but don’t get scarred for life, depending on factors such as their belief systems and how they handle the trauma.
For healing to occur, it is important to experience and process the emotions and to also have the right support systems. People who are stopped from grieving and expressing themselves are likely to suffer longer, as happens with people who believe that experiencing pain is a sign of weakness or lack of faith. Suppressing the emotions or trying to forget them forces the pain to go inwards, wrecking havoc.
The stages to recovery
Stage 1: Numbness
The pain and shock from the trauma is too much for the individual to handle so they just shut down and seem to be in a trance. It is like they have gone into hibernation. They have lost touch with reality and seem not to be functioning. This is the body’s way of protecting itself from destruction.
The person should be given space to go through the stage, without lectures and trying to reason with them. A person who is at this stage might hardly eat, which can worry those around them. The body is functioning on the mere basics so the demands are minimal.